One of the most common complaints I hear from people who are intent on losing weight is that no matter what they are doing, it isn’t happening. They tell me that they know all the rules, and have tried them before and lost, but this time seems to be different. I sense their frustration as I am talking to them, and they are usually looking for that “magic bullet” that will make it all disappear.
The reality is that our bodies get very used to our habits, and because so much of what we do is unconscious, we habitually and subconsciously undermine our efforts, leaving us feeling both deprived and defeated. When I push a little deeper, I find that many of their behaviors are following well established patterns that support their current physical condition. And if they have had weight issues for much of their lives, I feel them cringing a bit when I ask if they are writing down what they are eating, or removing sugar from their diets, or trying to figure out the triggers for their cravings. These are all old enemies that require some concentrated effort that, so far, they haven’t committed to do. T
he biggest culprit here is lack of consciousness and awareness. This can take the form of not controlling portions, to skipping meals, to not drinking enough water, to guessing at your caloric intake. As a result, you can be only partially aware of your behavior, and generally you know there are many more things that you could do if you truly felt you would be successful this time. Consciousness is paying attention to yourself and your body – what you put into yourself, and what you do physically, emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically.
The following is an article I read recently on a website called Sharecare.Com that lists 5 reasons people don’t lose weight (and the fixes for them). How many of these apply to you?
5 Reasons You Can't Lose Weight - and How to Eliminate Them
You haven't had a bite of pizza or a lick of ice cream in, like, forever, but you still can't lose a pound. What's up with that? Here's the real what, plus some expert fixes.
1. Consciously or Not, You're Clueless
"Very few Americans tell the truth about what they eat," says Elizabeth Somer, RD, author of 10 Habits That Mess Up a Woman's Diet. In one USDA study, more than 80 percent of women underestimated their daily food intake by a whopping 700 calories! Part of the problem is visual: Most people don't have a clue about what a true portion looks like, Somer says.
The Fix ·
Find your measuring cups and spoons. And if you don't have one, buy an inexpensive kitchen scale. ·
Measure out the recommended portions of everything you eat for a week. You'll quickly learn to accurately identify a 1/2-cup serving of pasta, a 2-ounce muffin, a teaspoon of butter, a cup of cereal, or a 4-ounce portion of chicken.
2. You Skip Breakfast
Successful dieters share a common habit: They eat breakfast, say University of Colorado researchers who monitor people who have lost at least 30 pounds and kept it off for a year or more. The benefits are big. As well as preventing 10 a.m. attacks on the vending machine, eating breakfast boosts your mood, memory, and work performance.
The Fix ·
Adopt the gold standard: Top 1 cup of whole-grain cereal with berries and fat-free or low-fat milk. Add OJ and coffee and you'll be good to go for hours. ·
Try the make-ahead version: The night before, put these into a preheated wide-mouth thermos: 1/2 cup old-fashioned oatmeal, a few chopped dried apricots, a pinch of brown sugar, a dash of cinnamon, a drop of almond extract, and 1 cup of hot fat-free or low-fat milk. Close tightly. In the morning, just open the thermos, sprinkle with slivered almonds, and spoon out a warm, delicious, ready-to-eat breakfast!
3. You Eat Without Thinking
Do you nibble off the plates of others? Constantly taste while cooking? Feed small fry in "one for you, one for me" bites? Each mindless nibble averages 25 calories, and with only four mindless bites a day, you gain a pound a month!
The Fix ·
Turn mindless eating into mindful eating, says Somer, by keeping a food journal and writing down every single thing you eat. You'll be amazed. ·
Eat food only when served on a plate to avoid overindulging. ·
Eat sitting at a table, not watching TV, driving, or flipping through magazines. And don't rush meals -- enjoy each bite.
4. You Drink More Calories Than You Know Sugary sodas, teas, and juice drinks don't fill you up, yet they pack on pounds. So do happy hours. For example, a bottle of sweetened green tea has 140 calories, the equivalent of a chocolate chip cookie. And a large margarita can have up to 800 calories -- more than four cake doughnuts!
The Fix ·
Can't give up regular soda? Make it an occasional treat. ·
Nix supersized cocktails and drinks made with high-calorie mixes or cream. · At parties, alternate a glass of wine with a glass of sparkling water. ·
Make your own iced green tea, and sweeten lightly (1 teaspoon of sugar has only 16 calories). The plus: Home-brewed tea usually has more healthy antioxidants, which often get lost in commercial processing. ·
Cut juice calories by mixing 1/3 cup of OJ, apricot nectar, or your favorite juice with 2/3 cup sparkling water.
5. It's Not You, It's Your Life
You swear you want to eat well, but in the next breath lament how hard it is to find the time, money, or mental energy to make it happen.
The Fix ·
Try tough love: Stop blaming others, the weather, your job, your life, the dog, etc. Focus on reaching your goal. "People lose weight every day, often despite overwhelming odds," Somer says. ·
List your excuses, and then brainstorm solutions. Lack of time? Cook large quantities and divide into single portions to eat throughout the week. Keep meals simple, and buy prepared foods, including sliced veggies and fruit.